Fighting Perfectionism

As an athlete, perfectionism can be both a blessing and a curse. On the one hand, striving for excellence is essential for success in any competitive field. On the other hand, the relentless pursuit of perfection can lead to anxiety, self-doubt, and burnout. So how can you strike a healthy balance between excellence and self-care? Here are some tips on how to overcome perfectionism as an athlete:

Recognize the difference between healthy striving and perfectionism
There’s nothing wrong with setting high standards for yourself and pushing yourself to improve. But when those standards become impossible to reach, or when you beat yourself up for falling short, that’s when perfectionism becomes problematic. Learn to recognize when your drive for excellence is helping you and when it’s holding you back.

Embrace failure as a learning opportunity
Perfectionists tend to see failure as a sign of weakness or incompetence. But the truth is, failure is an inevitable part of any journey towards excellence. Instead of avoiding failure, embrace it as an opportunity to learn and grow. Analyze your mistakes, identify areas for improvement, and use that knowledge to do better next time.

Practice self-compassion
Perfectionists are often their own worst critics. But treating yourself with kindness and compassion can actually improve your performance. When you make a mistake or fall short of your expectations, don’t berate yourself. Instead, offer yourself the same support and encouragement you would offer a teammate or friend.

Some Exercises to Help

  1. Keep a journal: Write down your thoughts and feelings about your performance. Reflect on the difference between healthy striving and perfectionism.
  2. Celebrate progress: Focus on the small victories along the way instead of fixating on the end goal. Celebrate progress, even if it’s not perfect.
  3. Find balance: Incorporate self-care into your routine, such as meditation, yoga, or time with loved ones. Prioritize rest and recovery as much as training and practice.

Remember, being an athlete is not just about winning, but also about personal growth and development. By overcoming perfectionism, you can not only improve your performance but also enjoy the journey toward excellence.

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About Dan Mickle

Dan Mickle founded Soul Performance Academy and has been a coach for over 30 years. He holds an M.S. in Sports/Performance Psychology and an M.S. in Learning Technology and Media Systems. Dan is a current NCAA DIII head volleyball coach. He is pursuing his D.H.Sc, focusing on the coaching considerations of neurodivergent populations. He is an Associate Member of the APA, a certified CBT coach, and a certified Mental Trainer.